Coaches will be more open to communicating if you have a relationship with them as people—not just a relationship based on what they can do for your child.
Recently, I wrote an article titled, “The Conversations I WANT to Have with Parents”, in which I suggested that coaches should encourage healthy and hard conversations with parents. At the end of that article, I suggested the following to coaches:
“Set some boundaries with the parents to empower them to have beneficial conversations with you. Giving hard feedback is difficult, but receiving it is just as difficult. You can help guide and educate them about healthy communication and feedback, but only after you have empowered them to give you feedback. Share the principles you use to guide feedback to players and people in your life, so that you are calling them up—not out.”